6 month Hiatus

Ok- I don't have enough time and really miss blogging. Quick up of the last 6 months.

• Disney. It was a blast and we can't wait to take the family again. That place is truly magical at any age. Only, down side is that everyone but me (go figure) got sick on the way home. Oh, Jake started walking right after the trip thank God.


• Summer. It was long. Pool, playdates, zoo trips, trips to visit family, Maddie's first sleeping the night over at a friends, cook outs and holidays. The kids had to constantly be busy all summer- I was a cruise director for 2.


• August- Maddie started Pre-K and turned 4. (I have started a blog on the age of 4 and plan to finish it soon)


• And to now- Jake will be 18 months in a few days. The Bessadas have been to Statesboro for all the home games. It great that we are all a football family.

So, this is a quick what I have been up to.

On a lighter note- I do have my eye on my newest handbag. Watch out Daniel!

Happy 1st Birthday Jakey!!!!

Oh-Jakey Boy. What a year it has been. And boy, how it has flown by.

I have to admit- I wasn't all thrilled about having a boy. But, now realize that you have added balance and a new adventure to my life.

You add a whole new color (blue) to our world. Since Maddie had saturated it with all shades of pink.

Things you sister never got into- you have now taken care of that. Surround sound, wires under the computer, trash can, taking the plug-ins off the wall and my favorite- toliet and toliet paper playing)

You are a tough little cookie and are NO where near as sensitive and Miss

Maddie either. You love to ignore "No" and test your limits.

You are a cuddly little booger and your Mommy loves that. I love the extra

little snuggles I can get from you each day.

Penises are a weapon and I have learned to use a sheild with it. (that only

took getting peed on a few times)

I have also learned alot about being a parent. I will never compare you to your sister. For one, you are a boy. And you are also your own person, with your own wants, needs and personality. I am always learning how to adjust to styles of you and your sister.

Love you my little Bubbie- and here is to another year.

A poem to good not to repost

I am proud to say that I have successfully nursed to babies for a year- which was my goal. It has been experience I will never forget and am truly blessed to have had this bonding time with my babies. But, I am excited to have my now saggy boobies back!


Ending Friendships
(Heads up- this might be TMI)

To my breast pump-You got me through many o' humps.
Nursing pads, you were my friend,You were my BFF until the end.
And you- Lily Pads,I kept you around until you leaked and made me mad.
And I can't forget you- nursing bras. You stayed around to see it all.
The time has come to say Good-Bye, Don't you worry, I will not cry. (well, i might cry this time)

Maddie-isms

Maddie has been cracking me up lately. She has come up with the funnies stuff.

Here are a few...

• It's not a toot if it doesn't stink.
• I(Maddie) tooted and it smells like Hot Dogs.
• M-"Daddy, what is Jakey doing" D- "he's flying" M- "Like a G-6?" (a fave song of hers at the moment)
• I like the Abouna(Priest at church) drink. (Communion wine- she's liking it early)
• She thinks all burps are caused by Diet Coke (note- she does not drink diet coke)
• She had a cavity filled (yes, I know she is only 3. but we floss and brush all the time) and wanted to know if she would always get to wear the mask when she went to the dentist. It's the mask for laughing gas.

She has also developed quiet a temper and turns into the devil. When I get the chance, I'll down load the video. She was tired that she pitched a fit for no reason and during this time, I swear her eyes popped out of her head.

Whine vs. Wine

Whine:

Pierces my ears
Gets on my nerves
Cost nothing
Usually asking you for things
Scares your friends away
Awful at the first sound
Hugs, kisses and loves you in the morning

Wine:

Numbs my ears
Calms my nerves
You have to leave the house to purchase
You are asking for another glass
Makes friends come around
Good until the last drop
Leaves you with a bad hangover


The last reason for whine makes all whine worth it.

Moving and Shaking

9 and 1/2 months into his sweet life- he has decided to crawl. All little cracks Jakey can squeeze into- have now been blocked. (yesterday, i couldn't find him. he had crawled under the end table and squeezed his little buns behind the coach)

Speaking of little buns- Jake is on the weight gain plan. Crazy right? My once 60% chunker is now 6% on the curve. He eats like a pig, nurses like a champ and eats anything you pick in sight. Where is it going? I guess to my thighs.

Wee-Wee Still Jake's friend and grabs it every change he gets. I guess that is a boy for you. At least the peeing in Mommy's face has ceased.

DaDa- I think Jake thinks that is my name. He will look at me and say, "DaDa" and then looks and Daniel and says nothing. HA!

Helmet update- 4 weeks left. Yea. He now wears it 14 hours a day. I will miss his helmet when he is done. All the thrown toys it has protected him from.

Jake is still my sweetie and non-problem child. I heart him and he makes me mush.

Oh Justin

So Maddie likes Justin Bieber and is in the closet about it.

Now if you ask her, she will tell you "No, I no like Justin Bieber" . She will only admit it to me she like him and will sing his songs in my presence.

It's like when we all had a crush on Zac Efron and realized the age thing was yucky and told no one about our secret crush.

For Christmas Maddie got this..................

She got embarrassed and once again said

"I no like it" But as soon as Kris and Abbey(who got her the gift) left the house, she was in the playroom dancing and singing to it.

Oh, Justin!

I need more time to blog again

Things have been crazy in the Bessada house since the last time I blogged.

Where to begin..............

Little Jake is 8 months old. He still won't roll- but enjoys rocking on his knees. He is also a great eater- nurses like a champ and eats anything he can put in his mouth. 6 weeks into his helmet wearing. He's doing great and hopefully only has 6 more weeks left. The helmet is a not only great for head reshaping, but great protection from- knocking his head on the floor, flying objects thrown, and Maddie. But, let me tell you----Jake's head smells like feet when the helmet is off.

Cute Jakey story-
Jake had his first playdate today with his friends. Two little girls- 5 months and 9 months and really cute. An hour into playing and eating snacks, Jake wants to nurse, then fell asleep for the rest of his playdate until the girls had to leave.

Now on to Maddie. Just saying Maddie should be enough. But she is such a big girl. Loves school and always come home with an art project or new song to sing. Beginning to recognize her letter and numbers. Super excited about Christmas. She has asked Santa for 3 things- Squinkies, Ice Cream Play-Doh and a Camera. We'll see what Santa brings.

Cute Maddie story- Some people do Elf on a Shelf. Well, he is scary as hell to me. But Santa is always watching Maddie in our house. And I am probably going to hell for this one day- but we told Maddie that the green light in the smoke detectors where cameras straight to Santa. When she does something good or bad she will go talk to it. (and yes, I have this on camera)So cute!

Jake's Friend

At 6 1/2 months old, Jake discovered he has a new friend. His penis. Yesterday during bath time, I turned around to look at Maddie. Only to turn back around to see Jake with a goofy, smiling look on his face and his hand down below. He kept squishing and playing and smiling. (Thank God the kid didn't pee on me, which he likes to only do with Mommy)
And this morning, I left to get Maddie out of bed, only to come back Jake trying to find his wee-wee once again (too bad for him, this time he had on clothes).

I think I am in for it with this one.

1/2 a Year

My sweet, sweet, cuddly little snookems has been in our lives for 6 months today. (I must say- this kid makes me complete mush.)

Jake Daniel is the sweetest thing ever and it is completely fine with me if he turns into a Momma Boy. (Sorry Maddie, you were a great baby too- but you cried more than Jake)

Stuff about Jake:

• still not rolling over. I think his legs are too chubby to carry him to the other side.
• can almost sit unattended for more than 45 seconds.
• doesn't like to eat breakfast, but will tear up some lunch and dinner. He loves his veggies.
• loves to nurse. Starts off sweet, then turns violent when he pulls my hair and smiles.
• love some Jakey smiles. They make my heart melt.
• Maddie- he stops what ever he is doing when she walks into the room to see what she is doing.
• laughs- he is still my funny boy. Laughs at everything.
• talks- he will babble up a storm if Maddie not around (he can't get two words in with her in the room) and you just talk to him.
• already knows that gas is funny. (must be a male thing) He toots and then laughs.
• falls asleep when a Disney song comes on.

Happy Hour

Then......................

Now.......................

Boy, how things have changed.

Recent Observations

I love my 2 little ones.



But boy, the Girl is killing me. ( by laughter and by my nerves)

• She talks non-stop. From the time she wakes up to the time she goes to bed. And in between, she is crying.
• She is always wanting something. "Mommy, I want somefin" (her version of "something")
• Has a date with Daniel this Saturday. We asked her where she wanted to go. "I want to go to the Gas Station (RaceTrac) to get a blue icee for me and a coffee for Mommy" It's the little things.
• Loves Mommy and Maddie time. (this is what we call our dates) She'll look at me with those big brown eyes and ask for some time alone with Mommy. How can I say no to that?
• The question asking. It never stops. "Where you going? Whatcha got? Whatcha doing?" I could keep on going.
• Pesty- she is so going to be the pesty big sister. She loves to be pesty to test her limits. I put a stop this and she goes in "Time Out" I have a feeling she is going to spend the rest of her being 2 in Time Out.

The Boy

• Is sweet as a button. A true cuddler. I could hold him for hours and he would let me.
• Will sit and laugh at nothing forever. He is quiet the silent jokester. Jake makes me laugh by watching him laugh. Maybe he is practicing his fake laugh for when his Daddy tells one of his bad jokes.
• I think he has taken a hiatus from his growing spurt. It was constant nursing for about 2 months straight. We were wishing for a Quarterback, but think we are getting a Linebacker.
• He doesn't look like Daniel's Dad. Daniel will even vouch for this. So quit saying it people. Jake looks like Daddy- but we are seeing a little of my side in him. (not alot a little)
• Did I say he loves to laugh?

My Sweet Boy

A few things about this sweet little boy at 2 months old........................

• Jake's a big boy. He's outgrowing all of his clothes. Thank God for hand-me-downs.
• He likes to eat or thinks I'm his human pacifier. (I do like the fact that he is quick. Eat and run)
• He's also very white. (no, i'm not kidding) And yes, he mine and Daniel's kids. His skin and hair are beginning to darken- alittle.
• Jake will sleep through the night maybe 3 nights a week and wake up once the other 4 days. The nights he wakes up, he forgets to give me an invitation to the party.
• Night owl. I can try to get him down for bed starting at 8:30. But, the booger won't fall asleep until 10:00. I'm going to keep going with the 8:30 and he will eventually figure it out.
• Jake is a super cuddler. Maddie WAS sweet but not much on cuddling. But, Jake, he is a lover boy.
• Loves Maddie singing Patty Cake to him. It's sweet, he always coos and smiles at her.
• He has a wee-wee and knows how to use it. I have been peed on multiple times already. (But, not on Daniel. I think Daniel threatened his life.)
• Finally (and he'll kill me for this one day)- he has gas that will bring tears to your eyes. I never knew a baby could do this.

To all my friends with only one child......

I promise to not ask when you plan on having the next one- due to my experiences of last week.

**a side note the weekend was great. With the exception of the break down at church, pointing her finger and telling me "No, No, No" and sticking her tongue out at me because I put her in time out. I'm glad Daniel got to experience it and make the beer run for me this weekend.

Becoming THAT Mom

I always knew I'd have a "That Mom" moment. I'm sure I have had alot in my 2 years and 9 months as being a Mommy. But, today I was a day that I called myself out on it.

Let me tell you how it went.................

Had to go to Target to pick up Jake's reflux medicine (after today's episode with Maddie, I know why he has it, I'd have it too) I also had to pick up a bag of chips for dinner. (Daniel decided to eat an almost whole bag of chips by himself last night. This is a whole other story.)

Getting the kids out of the car-
I decided to Baby Bjorn Jake and push Maddie in the cart. Maddie objected because she wanted to be in the big cart. I said "No" to this. I hate the big cart- it is too big and too long. This was the mini-fit. This also should have been my red-flag that this wasn't going to fun.

I walk up to the pharmacy and it is closed for lunch. I have 15 minutes until it opens. What to do? If I stroll in the store, I end up buying crap I don't need. I ended up walking the perimeter of the store and not wondering off my path. At the end of the stroll, I get to the chip isle. (Jake at dangling in the Bjorn, asleep. Maddie is asking for a billion things, which I have tuned out) I am nice and let Maddie help pick out the chips. Then she wants to hold them- Bad idea. I didn't want crushed chips for dinner.

This begins the meltdown. Maddie is crying hysterically. The ugly cries- when you gasp for air cries. The cries turn into screams as I walk to the pharmacy-which is not a far walk. People are looking at me. I can't get her to quit. She has now started the bucking of her body. I just know that any minute she is going to end up on the floor with a bloody head. (Note- Jake is still asleep or faking it because he is embarrassed) I get the pharmacy and you guessed it- it wasn't ready. So, I have to wait and I decided to take my screaming kid and make a pit stop. Maddie is still screaming while I'm doing this. I'm apologizing to everyone in the pharmacy, but they can't hear me over Maddie. The pharmacist is trying to make me feel better by telling me her son had a fit yesterday over one green lego. The guy checking me out is trying to be nice- but I know he is thinking , "Please the hell out of her lady and take that brat with you."

So all said and done- I have become THAT mom with the screaming kid. I know this won't be the last time and I'm fine with that.

Oh- curious on the pitstop in the store- It was to get me a Mommy Juice Box. Thank you Target for carrying boxes of wine.
Cheers!!!!

I miss

I miss blogging. I will get back to it soon.

I should really post the 3 half written blogs, I have attempted to finish since having Jake.

Dear God of the Toddlers

Please give my sweet little Maddie her listening ears back. I miss my sweet little girl that would listen to Mommy. If you can't give her ears back, can you please give me a bottle of blood pressure medicine, something for the anxiety and a bottle of booze?

Dear God- please give me ALOT of patience.

As you can tell- my toddler has quit listening and I am at my wits end- already and it's only been a little more than 2 weeks. I am trying not to yell or get mad a her- but she is so pushing my buttons. I thought it was b/c of the baby. But she was acting this way right before the arrival of baby brother.

New Addition

Well.......

Jake Daniel is here and is perfect.

(Yes, he looks like his father, but I also see some of me and my side in him. In other words, if I hear one more freakin Egyptian say he looks like his Giddy (grandfather) I'm going to scream. I think Egyptians forget that there is a mother involved in the baby making process and everything doesn't revolve with the Daddy's side of the family. Now- I'm off my high horse.)

The delivery was crazy and so simple.

I walked into the OR at 1150. Dr. came in at 1200. Daniel walked in at 1210 and JD was screaming at 1214. It was all so quick.

Back to Jack Daniel......

I thought this boy was going to be a longer nurser. But, over the last few days he has turned into Maddie and is a quick, frequent snacker- once I get him on. For some reason, the boy thinks I am his person play toy until he is ready to latch on.

He seems to be pretty laid back, I guess he has to be with Maddie as a Big Sister.

I love him and am glad he is finally here.

Today is the Day!!!!

Last blog will Baby JD is in my tummy.

Still full of emotions. Daniel is super, super anxious and very nervous.

Can't wait to meet the little one and have him home.

If you are reading this, please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

2 days.............

2 days left have left me an emotional boob. I'm a crier anyway, but today has been crazy.

Today was out last day with Maddie in our house alone. Tomorrow- we go to the CDT to celebrate Easter with the family to to drop our little Bean off until we get back home from the hospital.

Every time we did something, I thought, "This is the last time we'll do this as a family of three"

We had a great time and let the little one get away with murder. Breakfast and movies in front of the couch, picnic in the park, chips for lunch followed by ice cream right before nap time, IHOP for dinner (Maddie even picked her own meal with no influence from me).
Even if she doesn't remember the day- I will.

At bed time, I cried so hard, I couldn't catch my breath. (not just because of the crying, but the allergies that are killing my sinuses and the fact Baby JD is all up in my rib cage and lungs)Maddie would ask if I was ok. I told her it was a happy cry and she told me "that is silly Mommy"

I'm sure I will have another crying fest once we leave Maddie at my Momma's tomorrow. Story to follow.............